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Diana Lind's avatar

Appreciate this! But I think the real problem is less an urban planning one and more a psychological problem of getting people in their late 70s to make plans for the end of their health and driving span. We have financial planners who focus on estate planning. We might need a professional category of social worker who helps people through this process. It’s not easy to do it with one’s own aging family if they are resistant and in denial.

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The common attitude of "I'm not going to leave my home" because of aging is the contemporary update to "Don't put me away in a facility" that the previous generation often invoked in that it's a (to put it harshly) societally bred knee-jerk concept that assumes leaving your home is bad and that you’ll be uprooted or abandoned, doing something you’re being forced to do by others. And now it's being furthered by the promotion of, as you mention, “aging in place” as a goal, morphing it into an assumption that aging in place is always better. I'm hoping that our generation (yes, I'm a boomer) can get past this.

My wife and I are fortunate to currently live in a 15-minute neighborhood so we don’t have to worry about drivespan. But we’ll still have to find a new place in the not distant future that doesn’t have stairs, and it would be great if it included a vibrant community, preferably intergenerational in order to avoid the “packing me off to a home” scenario. Interaction with others is essential to healthy aging. (As with many of our urban boomer friends, we don’t have children of our own.) Regular apartment buildings can sort of meet this description but still fall far short in terms of community and facilities. I’ve been holding out hope for an intentional cohousing community. However, I haven’t identified anything like that yet in a setting that we’d want to live in. Cohousing has yet to really take off in cities, despite – I think – there being a real need and market for it.

I know that Lloyd has spoken often of the need for design, housing, communities and services for our aging demographic. But we need to figure out how to actually make it happen – fast. I’m reminded every time a friend tells me they’re retiring.

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